The holidays can be a minefield of emotions for LGBTQ+ individuals. Between family dynamics, societal pressures, and the potential for isolation, staying mentally healthy can feel like a challenge. In this heartfelt and practical episode of My Therapist is Out!, host Renae Johnson and therapist Terra Friedman unpack the unique stressors the season brings and share actionable strategies to help you not just survive—but thrive.

In this conversation, Renae and therapist Terra discuss navigating the complexities of the holiday season, particularly for the queer community. They explore the emotional challenges that arise during family gatherings, the importance of setting boundaries, and practical tips for maintaining mental health. The conversation emphasizes the significance of community, joy, and self-care during this time, offering insights into how to create a supportive environment for oneself and others.

From setting boundaries and creating affirming traditions to finding joy in chosen family, we’re here to help you prioritize your well-being. Plus, stick around for your queer moment of joy—a sweet reminder that celebration and resilience go hand in hand.

Takeaways

• Holidays can evoke complex emotions, especially for queer individuals.

  
  



• Setting boundaries is crucial for mental health during family gatherings.

  
  



• It's important to communicate your boundaries ahead of time.

  
  



• Redirecting conversations can help avoid political debates.

  
  



• Finding joy in community is essential during the holidays.

  
  



• Using virtual connections can help maintain community ties.

  
  



• Engaging with queer content can enhance holiday experiences.

  
  



• Practicing self-care is vital to enjoy the holiday season.

  
  



• Check-in protocols with friends or family can provide support.

  
  



• Slowing down can help prevent overwhelm during busy holiday times.

  
  

Featured Queer Moment of Joy Guest:

Antone Martinez, nail tech at Folklore Salon in Cypress Park. For more from Antone visit @littlebrothernails and @folklore.la

Therapist Bio: 

Terra Friedman AFMT (she/her) is an Associate Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Terra specializes in working with high achieving womxn who experience anxiety. Terra also works with couples and partners who are currently in or exploring non-monogamous relationships.

Host Bio: 

Renae Johnson (they/them) founded Open Space Therapy Collective (OSTC), a group practice and community hub that focuses on mental health for and by the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities and their allies. Renae is a licensed therapist and board certified art therapist.

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Content transparency: family conflict, politics

Keywords: holidays, queer community, mental health, boundaries, traditions, family dynamics, joy, community connection, emotional well-being, self-care

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Holiday Emotions and Traditions

03:32 Challenges for the Queer Community During Holidays

06:33 Setting Boundaries for Mental Health

09:37 Finding Joy and Community in Queer Affirmation

12:37 Mental Health Check-ins and Resources

13:04 MTIO-QJ Antone Martinez Folklore