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LTN 3 - Accepting Jealousy Without Control

LTN 3 - Accepting Jealousy Without Control

Update: 2025-10-09
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• Introduction of “Love Thy Neighbor” with therapist Colette Fehr
• Welcome new listeners and mention high podcast ranking
• Hosts called “teenage boys” for humor and immaturity
• Men maintaining adolescent humor
• Humor as coping mechanism and healthy outlet
• Colette’s husband’s immature fraternity text thread
• Male vs. female friendship communication
• Women maturing faster than men
• Relationship strain from maturity gaps
• Midlife women feeling disconnected
• “Six second kiss” relationship exercise
• Dan performing kiss with his wife before daughter
• Oxytocin and affection modeling for kids
• Teaching children healthy relationship behavior
• Transition to jealousy in relationships
• Reddit story: man jealous of wife’s galas with rich colleague
• Wife transparent, husband insecure
• Managing jealousy through communication
• Jealousy triggered by wealth and attraction
• Husband allows outing with boundaries and tracking
• Clarifying jealousy vs. envy
• Jealousy as natural nervous-system response
• Some view mild jealousy as caring
• Distinction between jealousy and control
• Trust and openness as antidotes
• Example of coworker emotional boundary issue
• Playful jealousy as reassurance
• Jealousy not proof of love
• Personality and trauma shape jealousy
• Irrational jealousy from dreams or imagination
• Dismissing partners as “crazy” worsens conflict
• Therapy reframing jealousy
• Men’s distrust of other men’s motives
• Debate on male-female platonic friendship
• Communicating boundaries early
• Cheating history affecting trust
• Accepting jealousy without control
• Listener email about couples without shared language
• Curiosity about cross-language relationships
• Soldiers marrying foreign partners
• Nonverbal connection through emotion
• Fewer words simplifying communication
• Arranged marriages lasting longer
• Debate: compatibility vs. effort
• Religious and cultural pressure to stay married
• Idea of renewing marriage licenses every five years
• Humor about forgetting to renew
• Renewal promoting effort and reflection
• Native American flexible marriage traditions
• Balancing commitment with self-respect
• Therapy helping decisions to stay or leave
• More men entering therapy
• Workplace friendships and power dynamics
• Ethical issues in boss-employee relationships
• Difficulty setting workplace boundaries
• Hard to assert yourself to a boss
• Toxic workplace mirroring romantic issues
• Balancing kindness and accountability
• Discomfort addressing workplace problems
• Need for professionalism and emotional awareness
• Tracy’s Halloween gift baskets as light humor
• Emotion and business intertwined
• Aggressive vs. empathetic attorney marketing
• Personality differences shaping response
• Colette’s “Insights from the Couch” podcast
• Upcoming book The Cost of Quiet
• Contact through LoveThyNeighborShow.com and voicemail
• Closing remarks and tease for next episode

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LTN 3 - Accepting Jealousy Without Control

LTN 3 - Accepting Jealousy Without Control

Tom Vann & Dan Dennis & Colette Fehr