Hayley Mayer from Sydney Australia is a psychotherapist who has faced a traumatic experience and has since learned to dance with life not wrestle with it. 
She offers tools and techniques to implement when faced with challenges and others who might try to step over your boundaries. Hayley's focus is on the importance of self-love saying it is foundational to living a life filled with our purpose.
Her idea of loving ourselves is to talk consider what you would say to a 5 year old child. If you wouldn't say it to them, then don't say it to yourself.
Listen as Hayley talks about the self-love vs selfishness conundrum.  What's your take? Agree or disagree?