Yesterday, my son and I had a meeting with his class teacher. These meetings happen twice a year to gauge the development of students. The two had a conversation while I was sitting at the side, observing and listening because, well, it was their appointment, and I was the guest.

The teacher was happy with one improvement in particular: He said that my son had gained lots of self-confidence in the past half-year. And then, looking at him, he said: “Are you aware that you’re keeping eye contact with me … while we’re talking … all the time?” — To which my son replied: “Yeah, I do, and it confuses the hell out of me!”

Self-confidence is nothing that one can “have.” It’s something that you do. One way of acting – and thus being! – self-confident is keeping eye contact with others. The other one, going much deeper, and a bit more difficult to learn, is keeping eye contact with yourself. Look at yourself as you are. Yes, this might be confusing for you, just as it is confusing for my son to become more self-aware.

Confusion means growth.

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