The concept of reality TV has always been questioned — where does the real end and the performance begin? In this thought-provoking episode of For The Fellas, host Brian McIntosh sits down with three men who live their lives in front of the lens to unpack the cost, the pressure, and the truth behind what we call “reality.

From the lights and edits to the real emotions that can’t be scripted, this episode holds up a mirror to how Black men are portrayed, perceived, and positioned in today’s entertainment landscape.

Joining Brian on the couch are:

• Mendeecees Harris — a Love & Hip Hop legend, father, husband, and entrepreneur who’s kept it real through thirteen seasons of one of TV’s biggest reality franchises.
• Karlous Miller — comedian, podcaster, and cultural voice of the South known for bringing raw truth and humor to every stage, screen, and mic.
• Ollie Sutherland — the UK’s own Love Is Blind star, proving that Black love knows no borders and that vulnerability can be global.

Together, these men go beyond the headlines and social clips to have a real conversation about fame, family, love, and the blurred lines between reality and real life.

• 00:00 - Meet the Fellas: Living Life On Reality TV
• 01:56 - The Business Behind Reality TV
• 02:53 - Why Our Culture Is Drawn to Reality Television
• 04:36 - The Appeal of Drama & Conflict On-Screen
• 06:38 - Reality TV Across the Pond: The U.K. Perspective
• 07:51 - Mendeecees’ Journey into Love & Hip Hop
• 11:41 - How Reality TV Shapes & Selects Relationship Storylines
• 21:24 - Being the “Supporting Cast” in a Woman’s Story
• 27:01 - Fatherhood & Fame: The Stakes of Being Seen
• 28:27 - Online vs. Real Life: Cancel Culture in Today’s Climate
• 30:37 - Rebuilding Trust in the Public Eye
• 32:57 - Growing With Your Partner While the World Watches
• 38:47 - The Weight Black Men Carry in the Spotlight
• 40:48 - Love Languages: Do Men Need Affirmation Too?
• 47:16 - How Much Influence Should Your Partner Have on Your Confidence?
• 52:41 - Protecting Your Mental Health as a Public Figure

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