“Nobody talks about Jesus’s miracle of having 12 close friends in his 30s”- Unknown

This past weekend, I went to a Vegan Thai Cooking class here in Austin. How cute? I learned to make authentic vegan versions of Panaag Curry with Fried Tofu and Tom Kai Mushroom soup. I met some new ladies, who honestly live far away, so sorry-- see ya never. My friend went with me and we bonded over spicy creamy food while it was over 100 degrees in Austin. 

Making friends. Sometimes making friends is pretty like dinner parties, cooking classes, sharing laughs and snuggles. Other time, making friends feels sad and impossible. Building friendships requires time, energy and is full of disappointment. Meh. So why try, Especially in our 30s?

We need each other. We need friends and community to share the burden of life and the joy. My old friends are scattered around the country and sometimes I feel lost without my ‘ol reliable gal pals. 

Page and I have different approaches to building relationships. I come into the scene like a snail and he busts through the wall like the Kool-aid man. 

In this episode we discuss many aspects of friendships and ultimately land on one conclusion. It’s GOOD to make friends! Hooray!

Since recording this episode I went on a Peanut Date that went well and I had the other Peanut Mom reschedule, cancel, and not reschedule...I call that the drawn out cancellation. Oh well, that’s another subject for another podcast.

Making Friends

01:52 Friends as an indicator of health as you age.

2:22 Friends or acquaintances? 

4:54 Friendship Roadblocks

6:30 Old friends vs. new friends

10:20 Friendship in your 30s

15:10 Nostalgia and friendship

18:13 Why don’t people use their last names anymore?

19:00 Amber’s adventures in making friends

22:45 Peanut App--Tinder for Moms

26:15 The Bachelor and other trash 

28:54 Numbing with trashy TV and wine

33:04 Amber thinks everyone is hot

37:00 Amber chats with Peanut connections

38:09 Creating a tight group of friends vs. a loose bigger group

41:35 Making friends is something you do forever

47:05 Sober friendships

48:17 Page’s next steps in his friendship world

50:15 Is it harder for women to be friends?

56:45 Vulnerability and friendship

59:43 Losing a good friendship

61:20 One-sided friendships

Links 

• Friendship & Happiness


• Nostalgia for the future word? Fernweh


• I'm Different-- 2 Chainz (Explicit)


• Peanut App


• Wanda Sykes calling out The Bachelor


• Theo Von is one of my Peanut Photos


• Skip to 8:35 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_cIAJRJZWek