Managing Relationships with Others
Update: 2021-07-22
Description
Show Notes
- [0:00:39 ] Episode Summary | Intro
- Jeremy gets “folksy”.
- All relationships take work and conscious effort to make them affective.
-
- This applies to work, family, and friends.
- You’re managing relationships, even when you’re not.
- [0:06:06 ] Diving Into Managing Relationships Well
- Communication Mistakes
-
- We often go in NOT assuming the best.
-
- Whether you’re sick, maybe you slept poorly, etc.
- We’ve found that very-very rarely does anyone actually have any ill intent going into their interactions.
- Assume the best!
- With the advent of social media dominance, the world at large right now needs to come together and acknowledge there are MANY more individuals with you than against you.
-
- And those people want peace, kindness, equality, and much more for themselves and others.
- If you are going to manage your relationships well, you’re going to have to listen.
-
- Listening is a skill that takes effort, and it’s not one people come by naturally.
- Listening isn’t, and shouldn’t be used as, a gateway to counter points, attacks, and conversational dominance.
-
- The goal is to listen twice as much as you talk.
- Questions are key.
-
- To great benefit, asking the right questions after engaged listening can unlock a lot of mutual understanding and trust.
-
- But questions shouldn’t come veiled with “gotcha” scenarios painted in, and should never be used to set someone up for failure.
- [0:13:25 ] Other Thoughts on Managing Relationships
- Relationships aren’t one and done, they’re ongoing.
-
- Intention and ongoing effort are required.
- Some relationships come easier than others, and sometimes that’s a good thing.
-
- Though we do have to be careful about spending all our time and efforts on what comes easy, while letting other relationships slip up.
- Respond, don’t react.
-
- Teaching yourself to think about your response is always worth the investment.
- The best relationships work when you don’t have the walled off facade in the way.
-
- Measure this for yourself and context is important.
-
- But there is something to say for being honest and sharing your feelings in earnest.
-
- Otherwise bitterness becomes the poison you drink...assuming the other person will get sick.
- Sometimes you just have to be humble and apologize.
-
- Too often work relationships fall apart because of one person or the other refusing to be wrong or accept the blame.
-
- Some of this can be from a toxic work culture, but a lot of it can be prevented.
- On that note, if you come from a toxic work culture, let us know!
- We want to help you get out of that, or improve that situation; and we have a network of amazing professionals who just might be able to help.
- Be a person and place that is safe to fail around.
-
- We can’t improve without failing.
-
- Help others navigate failure and acknowledge efforts of others with grace and humility.
- [0:23:57 ] Sometimes we make mistakes when we should know better…
- It’s easy to just pile on, try offering support.
-
- We all need allies, not enemies. So put that supportive energy out in to the world and help others rather than ridicule.
- Unspoken expectations are the landmines of all relationships.
-
- Assume the best, but don’t assume others know your expectations of them.
- Communicating expectations is so very important; the sooner the better!
- [0:28:45 ] Parting Words
- Spend time thinking and being intentional about your relationships in your life today, and the ones you wish could be better.
-
- Then ask how you can improve yourself to meet those relationship goals.
Comments
In Channel
Download from Google Play
Download from App Store
United States00:00
00:00
x
