Erik discusses managing substantial differences in a marriage. He addresses the questions:

• Our differences are what often draws us to each other, but then they can begin to drive us crazy. How do long-term marriages navigate this?
• When a couple comes out of the “honeymoon” phase one or both may begin to take stronger positions than they have in the past on things that they don’t agree on. This can lead to a sense of disillusionment, where they feel like they actually don’t know the person they married as well as they thought they did. How does a sparky couple navigate this?
• Some couples maintain a more peace-and-agree relationship and will say they “never fight.” Do some avoid conflict because it can be so uncomfortable to experience their spouse’s displeasure with them if they say what they really think?