What if your healing doesn’t look calm, graceful, or Instagram-worthy—and that’s exactly what makes it real?

In this episode, Dr. Misty rips into the toxic trap of performative healing—where spiritual practices become branding, regulation gets weaponized, and “high-vibe only” becomes emotional gaslighting.

We’re talking:

Why breathwork, yoga, and meditation sometimes don’t work (and why that’s not your fault)
Polyvagal theory (but make it sexy, sassy, and trauma-aware)
Rage, shutdown, and why calm is not the goal
️ Rebel healing rituals that work with your neurodivergent, overstimulated, gloriously messy body

Plus: a listener question that cracked our hearts open—"Why do I feel worse after breathwork?"

This episode is your permission slip to rage, shut down, scream into a towel, and call that shit sacred.

✨ Grab the companion worksheet: “Messy, Angry, Whole: A Nervous System Reclamation Map” inside The Ember Vault → untamedember.com

Chapters

• (00:00:00 ) - Welcome to Untamed Ember: Rage-Cries, Cheetos & Real Healing
• (00:00:29 ) - Performative Healing: When Looking Healed Matters More Than Being Whole
• (00:01:09 ) - Polyvagal Theory 101: Why Your Nervous System Isn’t Broken
• (00:02:02 ) - The Reality of Performance Healing: Calm Mask, Screaming Body
• (00:09:08 ) - Weaponized Regulation: When “Stay Calm” Becomes Oppression
• (00:12:37 ) - Sacred Rage: The Intelligence of Emotional Fire
• (00:15:53 ) - Calm Isn’t the Goal: Dissociation in a Pretty Outfit
• (00:16:49 ) - Truth Over Performance: Reclaiming Your Nervous System
• (00:17:47 ) - Reclaiming Healing: Burn the Aesthetic, Keep the Aliveness
• (00:19:13 ) - Rebel Rituals: Healing Tools That Don’t Perform for Instagram
• (00:20:38 ) - Freeze-State Rituals: How to Come Back From Numbness
• (00:21:37 ) - Rest As Rebellion: Opting Out of the Healing Hustle
• (00:23:59 ) - Breathwork Backlash: Why It Sometimes Makes You Feel Worse
• (00:27:09 ) - Nervous System Alternatives: What to Try Instead of Breathwork
• (00:30:02 ) - Final Thoughts: You’re Not Too Much—You’re Finally Honest