For the parents out there, who struggle under immense stress and feel like you just cannot catch a break, I’ve got a story here that will show you just how strong you are no matter what you face, and why the love you have for your children is the source of this strength. Today we hear about a story where a husband murdered in Iraq radically transformed a woman in fear into a fearless mother, with my guest, Gold Star Widow and Award-Winning Author, Barbara Allen. And I’ll tell you it’s full of intense ups and downs. Our conversation reveals how Barbara was forced to face her deepest fears after losing her husband and why her faith allowed her to find resilience, courage, and success even in her darkest moments. She used this hope to become a beacon for others to build a better life no matter the odds. Join us as we sip The REDBREAST 12 NEAT and dig into the insights that can inspire new ways of facing and overcoming your life’s challenges as a parent.

Wise Words from this episode:

• Barbara says, you get what you desire when you start asking for the right thing. Listen to her speak about how that mindset shift serendipitously introduced her to her husband just mere weeks following that request. Manifesting accelerates when you desire what you need more than what you want.

• In the grand scheme of things, we are not in total control of how things turn out on the path we walk. Look less towards control and more towards your choices and considerations. Your journey is about the experience.

• If you condition yourself to think that you’ll only be okay if X occurs is a recipe for letdown, not success. You will not be prepared for moments of failure, for divergent shifts, all the way to catastrophic events. Don’t place your wellbeing upon staunch outcomes.

• When parenting in pain, you must insist on getting the help you need. You cannot let your ego override the insistence of assistance. Pride in the face of possible failure leads to blind spots in problem solving and attention to detail.

• Barbra’s faith has naturally taught her how to “embrace the suck”, a more military oriented mindset that says, pain is part of the process, feel it and endure the discomfort to build resilience and win on the other side.

• Pull your children close, no matter what you’re going through, and do not let the perspectives and opinions of others be the louder voice that influences your children. Have faith in your abilities and your intentions for your children’s best outcomes.

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Website - Barbara Allen - Speaker, Award Winning Author, And Gold Star Wife (barballenspeaks.com)

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