In this episode of Going Inside, John Clarke sits down with Jessica Fern—IFS-trained trauma therapist and author of Polysecure—to explore what really happens inside our systems when we open up relationships. They unpack the intersection of attachment, trauma, and non-monogamy, and how IFS brings clarity and healing to the parts that get activated. Whether you're a therapist, curious about ethical non-monogamy, or working on your own attachment wounding, this conversation offers powerful insight, practical frameworks, and plenty of aha moments.

Key Takeaways:

• Why "opening up" a relationship often opens old wounds first—and how IFS can help you meet the infant parts crying out for safety.
• The surprising ways codependency, polyamory, and secure attachment collide—and what people get wrong about each.
• How the "shame triangle" shows up in modern relationships—and why your inner critic may be the loudest part in the room.

👤 Guest: Jessica Fern

Jessica Fern holds a Master’s degree in Conflict Resolution, is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, a trained Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, and an integrative therapist drawing on 25 years of experience in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic, and spiritual healing modalities. She is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure, The Polysecure Workbook, Polywise, and her upcoming book Transforming the Shame Triangle.

Through her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships to break free from reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment, and past trauma—empowering them to embody new possibilities in life and love.

Contact + Learn More:
 🌐 JessicaFern.com
📧 connect@jessicafern.com
📸 Instagram: @JessicaFern

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