![Nine Tricks Emotional Abusers Use to Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six clever ways to respond!) [347]](https://img.transistor.fm/ptsNtJ6srWPg7qw7a9Jn5TAgeU5uHcOk1Pv_rHrAm3c/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:1400/h:1400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9kZTA0/OTBhMWQ5MjAyNTA5/YzdhNzEyYjEwZWQx/ZTYwNS5qcGc.jpg "Nine Tricks Emotional Abusers Use to Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six clever ways to respond!) [347]")
Nine Tricks Emotional Abusers Use to Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six clever ways to respond!) [347]
Update: 2025-09-30
Description
In this episode, we're taking a look at the classic emotional abuse push-pull cycle that makes us feel like we’re starring in a soap opera we never auditioned for.
This one's for the Christian woman who’s been there, twisting herself into a holy pretzel trying to keep the peace, hold the family together, and love like Jesus while getting emotionally sucker-punched by someone who claims to love her.
What We Cover:
- The nine mind-warping tactics emotional abusers use to keep you locked in their circus of dysfunction.
- Why your loving heart (and need for connection) makes you the perfect target, and why that’s not a flaw.
- The six empowering, grown-up strategies to unhook yourself from their drama without turning into a fire-breathing dragon.
- Why explanations are overrated, and how less really is more (especially when you're dealing with a manipulative guilt ninja).
- How to set boundaries like a boss while still loving people, but from a safe distance.
Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here
Related Resources:
- Liked this episode? Here are some others you might want to check out: “Your Marriage Abuse Cycle Exercise” and “How to Respond to Emotional Abuse Tactics.”
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