Many years ago, I was learning with a peer in the Deal Synagogue, and we were having an argument regarding the laws of Mukseh on Shabbat. Suddenly, one of the leading Halachic scholars of our time, Rav Shmuel Pinhasi, walked in. We were thrilled to have the opportunity to approach him to resolve our disagreement. And so we reverently came to the sage, posed our question, and listened attentively to his response. When he finished speaking, we went back to our place, and we both said to one another, “You see, I’m right!” This incident showed me in the clearest possible way how we have a natural tendency to hear what we want hear, to confirm our ideas and biases, rather than allow them to be challenged and questioned. We don’t want to be shown that we’ve been wrong, that our decisions or opinions are incorrect. And so we always hear what we always thought to be correct. A dramatic example of this phenomenon, of hearing what one wants to hear, is Bilam, about whom we read in our Parasha, Parashat Balak. Balak, the king of Moab, sent messengers to Bilam, a gentile prophet, asking him to come to Moab and place a curse upon Beneh Yisrael. After the messengers arrived and submitted their request, G-d appeared to Bilam in a dream and said, “Lo Telech Imahem” – “Do not go with them” (22:12 ). The next morning, Bilam said to Balak’s men that he could not accept the mission, “because G-d refused to let me go with you” (22:13 ). Rashi explains that Bilam was telling the messengers, “I cannot go with you – but I can go with more distinguished dignitaries!” Bilam was an arrogant man, who craved honor and prestige. And, he despised Beneh Yisrael even more than Balak did, and very much wanted to place a curse upon them. Therefore, when Hashem told him, “Don’t go with them,” Bilam heard, “Don’t go with these men whom Balak sent to you, but go with more distinguished figures when he sends them to you!” Bilam heard not what Hashem actually told him, but rather what he wanted Hashem to tell him. The Gemara in Masechet Gittin (45a) tells the story of Rabbi Ilish, who was being held captive together with another man. One day, a raven came and began chirping. Rabbi Ilish turned to his fellow captive and asked if he understood the language of the birds. The man answered in the affirmative, and explained that the bird was saying, “Ilish – escape!” Rabbi Ilish realized that the bird was informing him that it was safe for him to run away from captivity. However, he knew that ravens cannot be trusted, and so he did not try to escape. Sometime later, a dove came and began chirping. Once again, the Rabbi’s fellow inmate told him that the bird was urging him to escape. Rabbi Ilish followed the dove’s advice, and safely escaped. A number of commentators noted that undoubtedly, Rabbi Ilish also understood the language of the birds. It is inconceivable, these commentators write, that this random inmate had more wisdom than the great Rabbi Ilish. The question, then, arises, why did Rabbi Ilish ask the other fellow to interpret the birds’ chirping? If he understood what the birds were saying, then why did he consult with his cellmate? Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz (1902-1979) explained that Rabbi Ilish didn’t trust his own interpretation. He very much wanted to hear the bird telling him that this was an auspicious time to escape from captivity. And so he feared that he would hear what he wanted to hear, and not what the bird was actually saying. He therefore consulted with his fellow inmate to get an objective explanation of the bird’s chirping. This is an important lesson about honesty and objectivity. The only way we will grow is if we live with the openness to hear the truth – even when it makes us uncomfortable, when it challenges our previous opinions and beliefs. Refusing to accept the truth is a quality associated with the wicked Bilam, whose passionate hatred for Beneh Yisrael prevented him from properly understanding G-d’s message. We are to do just the opposite – live with the humility and honesty to hear what Hashem tells us and to surrender to His will.