If you have ever thought “I cannot do this parenting sh*t anymore” or found yourself Googling “is it bad to hide from your children in the shed” this episode is for you.

Author and kinship foster carer Gemma Ray did not exactly choose Non Violent Resistance parenting, now often called New Vision for Relationships, out of curiosity. She arrived at it like most parents arrive at desperate solutions, exhausted, tear-stained and one step away from waving a white flag and saying “I’m out.”

NVR is not about being the perfect parent or making anyone else wrong. It is about keeping hold of the relationship between caregiver and child no matter how messy things get. For Gemma, that meant ripping up her old parenting rulebook, learning not to rise to every battle, and reparenting herself in the process. It was exceptionally hard, humbling, sometimes hilarious and completely life-changing.

In this episode of Honest to Gob, Gemma tells the truth about how NVR stopped her from giving up on her foster children, why it is not about fixing kids, and how it helped her rebuild the very relationships she thought were broken beyond repair. She is not here to preach or hand out gold stars, just to share the tools that helped her stop shouting herself hoarse and start thriving in her family life, not just scraping by.

This episode is not meant to be judgemental to anyone who parents in a different way. Parenting is deeply personal and often triggering. None of us want to feel like we are doing a crap job as mum, dad or carer. But what if there was another way? A way that might feel unnatural at times, but creates calmer homes and happier families all round? That's why this episode exists - to give you an insight into what Non Violent Resistance parenting is and how you could put some of the key themes and practices into action in your own family.

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