No amount of nurturing is ever wasted. When we invest time and energy weeding (unlearning hurtful behavior) and nurturing (empathizing, regulating, connecting, practicing compassionate communication, loving limits, self-care, etc)our hearts and homes are strengthened. We plant eternal seeds that will flourish and multiply with time and through time. 

Even if, the seeds we plant are only sufficiently watered in the successive generations, we have succeeded in beginning the process of weeding and nurturing our way to an imperfectly beautiful garden, with every best effort to be gentler with ourselves and our children.