At least there is an archetypal root to it, underneath socialization and the horrific pressure of modern culture.

We all have an innate speed (pace) and an innate rhythm (pattern) to us, as a baseline broad-spectrum way that we work.

We also live in a world that generally says there is only one right way to be, and that includes both speed (basically: fast) and rhythm (basically: continuous).

As always, this is bullshit, and extremely unhelpful bullshit, because in my experience that baseline speed + rhythm DOES NOT CHANGE.

We can force ourselves out of it, and that always, always sucks. It's destructive and unhelpful over the long term.

This is also a serious issue in relationships, and it's one I've run into often (both personally and professionally).

As with most of our own nature, we unconsciously expect other people to work at both the speed and the rhythm that we do, and we tend to assume there's something wrong with them if they don't. Needless to say this creates real friction in a relationship, and long term it can be deadly.

Learning more about your own innate speed and rhythm, and then bringing more curiosity and space for others to move at their own speed and rhythm, can improve your relationships more than you might believe possible!

It can also just help you to live more effectively, which is always more satisfying, by working YOUR way and not the way 1) other people do or 2) you've been taught/pressured to do. I hope this episode can move you in that direction!

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