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Projective Identification in Abusive Relationships [280]
Update: 2024-06-18
Description
Abusers will project their own inner identity and issues onto their victims. Let’s talk about what that means, how it impacts a survivor, and what you can do about it.
Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here
Related Resources:
- The YouTube video that inspired this episode, “Projective Identification Explained.”
- The book by Tina Swithin I mentioned, Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle.
- My newest book, All the Scary Little Gods, is a spiritual memoir about healing from religious trauma and toxic programming.
- Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote another book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse.
- Flying Free is my online membership program designed for Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages. Whether you want to stay in your marriage or leave, we want to equip and support you through this program.
- Flying Higher is my online membership program for divorced Christian women. Come rebuild your life after divorce with women just like you.
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