With trends and fashion and technology, is it really wise to have children after you've turned 40, and live a borderline lower to middle-class lifestyle? Unless the two parties are a well-established item, it will be extremely difficult to provide for a growing child, this day in age unless at least one of them is extremely well-off financially. Also;;; it is important for us as people of color to "leave the nest" and travel to other places, observing the multitudes of different types of cultures as well as people. Put yourself in a different environment and challenge the mind to adapt and evolve with your surroundings. Learn to adjust accordingly because after all, life is only a game, question is...what game are YOU playing...?