What if your child inherits more of your nervous system than your advice? We pull apart projection, the subtle ways our unlived life becomes our child’s burden, and how reparenting ourselves changes the energy our kids grow up in.

We get practical about felt safety: co-regulation over control, attunement over platitudes, and why you can’t fake presence with gifts or grand gestures. Think real-world moments—missed party invites, public meltdowns, and performance pressure around sports or school—and the quiet skills that transform them: naming emotions, staying anchored, and repairing after we misstep. We also talk boundaries that protect connection, not our image; autonomy that grows authenticity; and the simple question that resets everything: why does this moment trigger me?

Along the way, we revisit Jung’s line about the “unlived life of the parent,” explore how generational trauma travels through state, and share the shift from pushing kids toward our dreams to standing ready to support theirs. The metric we use now is simple and hard: how safe do our kids feel telling us the truth when they’ve messed up? If you’re ready to trade performance parenting for presence, and fear for curiosity, you’ll find tools, language, and hope here.

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Holos Healing:
https://holoshealing.info/

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Guided meditation:
https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/wbf8yihnv2a8h7jjyhczw/Connecting-to-your-Authentic-Self.mp3?rlkey=4cjj06t9ltrbv044ouxotim89&e=2&st=fvfoodx6&dl=0

[00:00:00 ] Intro and welcome
[00:01:56 ] Darci's Memories: Presence and Joy
[00:06:45 ] Brandon's Memories: Work, Support, Accountability
[00:13:20 ] Becoming Young Parents and Big Emotions
[00:17:20 ] Projection, Reparenting, and Jung's Quote
[00:22:10 ] Modeling Mistakes, Regulation, and Repair
[00:26:20 ] Nervous System, Co‑Regulation, Felt Safety
[00:31:20 ] Space, Autonomy, and The Pendulum
[00:36:00 ] Sports, Expectations, and Letting Kids Lead
[00:40:10 ] Attunement vs Misattunement in Daily Life
[00:44:20 ] Safety, Being Seen, and Family Repair