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Relational Self-Awareness and the Hard Truths of Couples Therapy: An Interview with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Relational Self-Awareness and the Hard Truths of Couples Therapy: An Interview with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Update: 2025-08-18
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Relational Self-Awareness and the Hard Truths of Couples Therapy: An Interview with Dr. Alexandra Solomon


Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon joins Curt and Katie to discuss what therapists get wrong in couples therapy, how to work with high-conflict dynamics, and the power of relational self-awareness. We explore how therapists can show up better prepared for the real work of helping relationships grow—or gracefully end.




About Our Guest:
Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, author, and host of the Reimagining Love podcast. Known globally for her relational self-awareness framework, Dr. Solomon bridges clinical wisdom, research, and pop culture in her work with couples. She is the author of Loving Bravely, Taking Sexy Back, and Love Every Day.




Key Takeaways:




  • The relationship—not the individuals—is the client in couples therapy




  • Why individual therapist skills don’t always translate to couples work




  • How regulation and self-awareness reduce conflict and promote connection




  • What therapists should know about the "change partner vs. acceptance partner" dynamic




  • Why therapist bias and romantic myths can derail the work




More info, transcripts, and full show notes at mtsgpodcast.com


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Relational Self-Awareness and the Hard Truths of Couples Therapy: An Interview with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Relational Self-Awareness and the Hard Truths of Couples Therapy: An Interview with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Curt Widhalm, LMFT and Katie Vernoy, LMFT