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Retired But Not Done

Retired But Not Done

Update: 2025-11-07
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Grace’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/graces_surro_journey?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== 

Kiely’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatsurrogatelife?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==


What happens when the transfers are done, the last delivery is behind you, and the identity you wore with pride suddenly shifts? We sit down with a seasoned pair of voices—Grace, a two‑time carrier, and Kiely, a four‑time carrier—to talk candidly about “retirement” from surrogacy, the choice to step back versus being told no by clinics, and the surprising ways purpose expands after the final journey.

The conversation moves from age cutoffs and ACOG guidance on C‑sections to the emotional calculus of ending on your own terms. Grace shares how preparing for her last pregnancy shaped a peaceful exit, while Kiely explains why she wanted the decision to be hers, then channeled that energy into writing, mentoring, and creating Send a Friend, a grassroots program that brings an experienced surrogate to support first‑time postpartum surrogates. Along the way, we reflect on what surrogacy teaches our families: that love builds families in many forms; that children can learn to answer strangers with clarity and pride; and that empathy deepens when you stand next to someone who longs for a child money can’t buy.

We also get practical. Expect frank talk about changing insurance rules, clinic discretion, compensation norms, and how to research without falling into bias. You’ll hear why Facebook groups can be both a lifeline and a minefield, and how to gather perspective that sets realistic expectations for matching, protocols, and postpartum recovery. Most of all, we reframe the label “retired.” You’re not done—you’re a surrogate emerita, carrying wisdom forward through advocacy, education, and community.

If this conversation resonates, follow the show, share it with someone curious about surrogacy, and leave a review with the insight you wish every new surrogate knew. Your voice helps more families—and more surrogates—find their path.


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