DiscoverDateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationshipsS21E9: The Emotional Labor and Mental Load (In Dating & Relationships)
S21E9: The Emotional Labor and Mental Load (In Dating & Relationships)

S21E9: The Emotional Labor and Mental Load (In Dating & Relationships)

Update: 2025-10-14
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Who carries the weight in your relationship or early dates—the calendar, the check-ins, the emotional temperature checks? We're diving into the mental load that happens in modern relationship – and what brings you closer versus take on unnecessary hardship. We're discussing the difference between emotional support, labor and load, the behind-the-scenes effort that shows up even in early dating, and the shifts you can make so you're no longer the one carrying as many emotional burdens (that you may not even be aware of!)

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S21E9: The Emotional Labor and Mental Load (In Dating & Relationships)

S21E9: The Emotional Labor and Mental Load (In Dating & Relationships)

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick