DiscoverPlay Therapy Parenting PodcastS2E36 - Power Struggles & Choice Giving: What to Do When a Child Says “Nothing”
S2E36 - Power Struggles & Choice Giving: What to Do When a Child Says “Nothing”

S2E36 - Power Struggles & Choice Giving: What to Do When a Child Says “Nothing”

Update: 2025-03-01
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In this episode, I answer a question from Anne in Germany about her three-year-old daughter who refuses to choose when given enforcement choices. Instead of picking an option, she repeatedly says nothing, creating a power struggle around limit-setting.

I explain why choosing "nothing" is still a choice and how to handle this scenario without engaging in a battle of wills. I walk through how to calmly and confidently remind children that choosing not to choose means the parent will choose for them—and why this approach teaches self-control, responsibility, and cause-and-effect thinking. If you’ve ever struggled with a child refusing to make a choice when offered in a child-giving for enforcement scenario, this episode provides a clear, Play Therapy Parenting strategy to resolve it.

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Common References:
Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.
Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group.

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S2E36 - Power Struggles & Choice Giving: What to Do When a Child Says “Nothing”

S2E36 - Power Struggles & Choice Giving: What to Do When a Child Says “Nothing”

Dr. Brenna Hicks