What if the strongest thing you can bring to the room isn’t control, but connection? We sit down with leadership mentor and former elite high-performance coach Craig White to chart the shift from head to heart, and from managing outcomes to mastering attention. Craig takes us behind the scenes of life at the top of rugby and into the inner practices that changed everything: breathwork as the master regulator, nature as a nervous-system reset, and relational presence as the true measure of leadership.

Craig opens up about a month in a tantric yoga school that split his career into a before and after—two weeks of restlessness followed by deep stillness, heart-opening states, and a flood of long-buried fear, anger, and grief. He explains why he reframes “soft skills” as attention skills, how he learned to share spirit and non-linear movement with hard-edged teams, and the rule that guides his work: never ask a client to do what you haven’t done yourself. We explore the often-hidden topic of male sexual energy as creative fuel, and how redirecting it through breath cultivates vitality, clarity, and steadiness under pressure.

For high achievers who’ve built success on control, Craig lays out first steps toward safer relationships and better leadership: recognise dysregulation, recentre through the senses, and blend anger with love when setting boundaries. He shares a practical 20-question safety inventory couples can use, a redefined barometer of success—daily joy and staying open while activated—and seven pillars of self-leadership spanning self-understanding, radical accountability, emotional mastery, mission, vision, energy, and love. We finish with transitions as natural upgrades and the invitation to embody the body’s wisdom so you can meet life, and the people you love, with a clear spine and a soft front.

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