“Why am I not married?”

It’s a question so many women have asked—and have been asked—over and over again. It’s gotten to the point where the idea that a woman could actually be happy without a husband isn’t even part of the conversation.

For a lot of women, the thought of never getting married feels scary. Almost like something is wrong if it doesn’t happen.

But here’s something worth asking:

“Do I actually want to be married?”

Not should I be… not when will I be… but do I really want it?

It’s a different kind of question—and it might lead to a very different kind of answer..