Years ago I read a story about 2 brothers.  The oldest brother was athletically gifted, the younger brother, not so much.  Nevertheless, they were best of friends.  One tragic Summer day the older brother dove into a shallow portion of a lake and became paralyzed.  It changed their lives forever and the family had to get used to a new normal.  Fast forward years down the road and the younger brother who had always struggled with his weight was in a "pity me" mode and complaining about working out and that it just was too difficult to get motivated.  The older brother, in his wheelchair, responded "I would give anything to feel the pain of running again".  That's all it took.  That CONTRAST was so powerful the younger brother never looked back or complained about working out again.  Contrast can be your friend on your road to personal development if you use it properly.  SO USE IT.