Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of The Beyond Addiction Show 

Today, Dr. King is accompanied by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer, the authors of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive. They share in this episode on self-compassion: how to incorporate it into our daily lives and what fierce self-compassion is.

 

Key Takeaways:

[1:47 ] Kristin and Chris talk about how their lives are now.

[3:58 ] Does self-compassion really help?

[5:07 ] Self-compassion is about opening up to whatever it is that you are feeling.

[6:38 ] Kindness is one important component of compassion and Chris explains why.

[8:14 ] There are both cultural and psychological barriers to self-compassion.

[10:14 ] Dr. King asks about the dangers of being kind to ourselves, giving ourselves permission to indulge in order to practice kindness with ourselves.

[12:25 ] Chris explains the concept of behavioral self-compassion.

[16:43 ] Kristin shares practical ways to exercise self-compassion for those who struggle the most.

[17:30 ] How can you pause when you are being too hard on yourself?

[22:25 ] Kristin shares the power of a soothing touch as a way of practicing compassion.

[25:34 ] Kristin talks about fierce self-compassion.

[31:33 ] Chris models how to be self-compassionate even when you are not ready to practice it.

[33:45 ] Everything starts with giving ourselves permission.

[35:00 ] Chris explains why sometimes practicing self-compassion can make us feel worse.

[37:48 ] Practicing self-compassion over time heals wounds.

[39:20 ] Kristin talks about how as humans we tend to avoid pain, how most of the time, we fail, and why.

[41:34 ] Chris presents the two paradoxes of self-compassion.

[44:55 ] The golden practice is simply to be a compassionate mess.

[46:53 ] Kristin talks about her book Fierce Self Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive.

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

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Email Dr. Josh King at beyondaddiction@motivationandchange.com or tweet him at @DocJoshKing

 

Learn more about the Center for Mindful Self Compassion

 

Tweetables and Quotes:

“Self-compassion doesn’t judge whether you should or shouldn’t be feeling how you do.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (4:09 )

 

“Self-compassion can be trained.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (9:17 )

 

“Ask yourself: Is this behavior really helping me? If it is not, then is not self-compassion.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (14:56 )

 

“You can unconditionally accept yourself without unconditionally accepting human behaviors.” — Kristin Neff @_TheCMC (27:00 )

 

“If it is a struggle, it is not self-compassion.” — Christopher Germer @_TheCMC (30:41 )

 

“When you start being compassionate with yourself, old wounds come up.” — Christopher Germer @_TheCMC (35:04 )