Sid Stockdale : Lessons Learned From War
Description
Reflections and Lessons Learned from a POW Father
For the first time, Sid Stockdale, one of four Stockdale children, tells stories from his 8- year experience (from age 11 to 19) while his father was a POW in the Hanoi Hilton and his mother started The National League of Families of POWs and the Missing in Southeast Asia. Sid will discuss his experiences of these years of trauma in a new memoir, “A World Apart – Growing Up Stockdale During Vietnam.”
Major themes include dealing with the loss of Sid's father emotionally and the long term uncertainty with him a POW; coping with his mother’s physical and emotional exhaustion and eventually her severe depression; coping with his brother Stan’s emotional blindness and its impact on his mother; coming to know the “Sid” that emerged at boarding school surrounded by a healthy and safe culture; the joy of his father’s release and return; the beauty of getting to know his father and witnessing the strength, courage, and determination of both my parents who were an exceptional couple.
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