The way you choose to relate to others can bring out the best in others or it can kill the best in others.  You don’t have to win at everything; learn to make winners of others.  That will make you of great value to them. 

Jesus tries to teach us simple ways to skillfully live with others, but you have a choice.  Jesus is always looking to help us be our best.  He doesn’t use ways contrary to this.  When you learn to skillfully navigate the way you choose to be with yourself, you will have more successes as you learn to skillfully relate with others.