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Speak for Clarity, Not Control: Emotional Intelligence for Christians

Speak for Clarity, Not Control: Emotional Intelligence for Christians

Update: 2025-11-12
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What if the conversations you’re avoiding are the very ones the Holy Spirit wants to use to change your life? In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer breaks down the difference between speaking for clarity and speaking for control. You’ll learn how emotional intelligence, honesty, and love work together to create real connection in relationships—with God, yourself, and others. From learning to say what you feel to listening without defensiveness, this episode walks you through what it looks like to speak and listen for clarity in love.

If you’ve ever avoided hard conversations to “keep the peace,” this one’s for you.

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Speak for Clarity, Not Control: Emotional Intelligence for Christians

Speak for Clarity, Not Control: Emotional Intelligence for Christians

Rafer Owens, Jr | Mindset Coach | Speaker