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The fastest way to stall a coaching session is to jump in with solutions. We’ve all felt that urge to fix, to protect, to offer the perfect list of steps—but the moment we do, we quietly take the steering wheel away from the client. Today we walk through the shift that turns decent conversations into transformative sessions: replacing answers with awareness and letting curiosity lead.

We start by naming why fixing is so tempting: it feels productive, it soothes our anxiety, and it mirrors how school and work rewarded us for telling people what to do. Then we flip the script. Clients hold the best context—their strengths, values, constraints, and motivations—so our job is to draw out their thinking rather than overwrite it. You’ll hear how ownership skyrockets when clients build their own plan, why follow-through improves when actions are self-chosen, and what “inspired action” sounds like when you reunite clarity with autonomy.

To keep yourself out of fixer mode, we share a simple metric and a powerful prompt. If you’re talking 90% of the time, you’re mentoring, not coaching. Try this instead: ask, “What advice would you give someone you deeply care about who’s facing this same situation?” Then follow with, “Which piece of that advice would help you most right now?” These questions bypass self-criticism and invite practical wisdom to surface fast. We also dig into the skill of trusting the process—using silence, reflective listening, and safe practice reps—to build sessions that create lasting change.

By the end, you’ll have a clear, repeatable way to help clients uncover their own answers, create plans they genuinely own, and take action that sticks. If you’re ready to talk less, listen smarter, and elevate your impact through curiosity, this one’s for you. Subscribe, share this with a coach who needs it, and leave a review telling us your favorite question to spark client insight.

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