Tired of circuitous speech, vocal fry, upspeak, endless qualifiers, and the word "like" in every sentence? Asher goes through examples of categorical speech from Mad Men, Humphrey Bogart movies, and Gone With the Wind. He calls for us to embrace rather than fear ManHearted communication. Asher argues current, fashionable speech patterns and fad-banter lacks heart, soul, and brains.

Personally, I've always chafed at walking around on eggshells versus using plain blunt speech, which is itself a speech pattern. And we've taught a generation of adults that ingratiating apologetic, cautious circuitous in making a point language is more adult. So imagine if Rhett Butler had said possibly Scarlet, and I'm not saying this is like the only way to like look at it, but I don't so much care as maybe you would like hear that question at the end. Or what if bogey said, I feel like maybe I shouldn't have a hundred percent change from scotch to like martinis, and I'm not saying there's anything wrong with martinis, but I'm not going to talk like that. I hope you're not going to talk like that. And I think something fundamental is missing when we force ourselves into that external shell, that if we're truly adults, instead of using plain direct blunt speech, we have to be so circuitous that we can't be understood.

One of my favorite films is lay on the professional. And by the way, if you have not seen the international version, which is called lay on the professional, if the only one you've seen as the American bowel, the rise cut down safe, nice version called the professional. You haven't seen the movie. Everyone else in the world is seeing one with three scenes that haven't been cut out for our safety and protection, which are kind of stupid. And it's a different topic, but I encourage you to watch the uncut version for a variety of reasons. We can talk about if we ever address the topic of film, which I'm sure we will lay on the professional. You know, it's got Natalie Portman and John Reno and Gary Oldman as the dirty DEA agent the mega villain, et cetera. And I just love this, you know, he's, he's just gotten through eliminating an entire family along with his crew of agents in a busy apartment building.

And so they hear sirens and everybody says, ah, let's leave. And he says to one of his guys, you stay here. So the police are coming out. Yeah, you stay here. What should I tell him? He says, tell them I was doing my job. I love it. It's that simple. There's not that he didn't say like, just kind of convey that like we were, you know, in the process of trying to be pre none of that crap, he said the words, and you could say this is because it's movies, but I think that movies reflect the intention of a culture and the model that we're holding up for the kinds of people that we want to be. And I've seen a distinct evolution in movies and in popular media, in song, in film, in literature and in every other venue in political speech on Twitter and Twitter demands that you now it's 320 characters, but it used to be 140 demands that you be terrorist.

And we still see people mostly not saying it anything because they may Andrew to get to the point. I love it. When the police do confront Gary Oldman, his character says, I have time for this Mickey mouse. So I want to do a quick tour of some of the lines that we've come to know and love if you're my age or even 10, 15 years younger than me, or you're really young and just have a fancy for the kinds of film and TV that I like. So in other words, if you like things like Humphrey Bogart, you know, Maltese, Falcon, and you, you see in those some signs of what we might call or universally understand to be manhood. If you like that kind of stuff like me, then you're going to recognize some of these lines. Let's start with Rhett Butler. Because I actually think that a Rhett Butler does not get as much play as the classic tough guy, classic male icon as he should.

And it's all because what, you know, it's a deep Southern campy romance, a Gothic romance, et cetera. And I think there's a lot to look at when it comes to Rhett Butler. So obviously we all know the line, frankly, my dear, I don't give a classic, epic, clear. There's nothing to trim in that statement. And I'm not arguing for brevity. I think a lot of people that like to quote Shakespeare brevity is the soul of wit forget that it was a moron in Shakespeare's play. That said that the guy, not only was it brief, he went on and on and on. It was comedy. His point was that he was Witless. So I don't give a lot of credence to it. I think if you have something to say, use the words necessary to convey the substance of your point. But frankly, my dear, I don't give a, it's a lean phrase.

There's nothing to remove. I don't give a it's like, off. It's just that you can't say that in gone with the wind, right? You should be kissed. And often by someone who knows how love that, if you've ever just wanted to look into a woman's eyes and tell you exactly what you felt, this is a, a more artful way of saying it. But you don't have to artful to be plainspoken and direct. How about this? God helped a man who really ever loves you you'll break his heart by darling. I've said that. Sure. Some of you have with enough courage do without a reputation. That's my favorite line. Let's switch to Bogart his line. The problem with the world is everyone is a few drinks behind, you know, what people would reject about that phrase today. They would reject the idea that it's categorical, it's unqualified.

It expresses an opinion without buffering it with, I kind of sort of feel or putting the word like in so that somebody understands. You're just portraying your own personalized take on things. The problem with the world is like, I don't know, everyone is sort of like, you know, like a few drinks like behind. You have to ask it as a question too, because you're not allowed to be sure of yourself. Imagine Bogart, not sure for himself, but he says, I always cry at weddings, especially my own. That kind of stuff is seen as toxic now. And I'm thinking the guy knows what he thinks. He knows what he wants. He knows what he's going to do. He knows how he sees you. He has an understanding of himself and how he sees the world. You can't berate generation of men for a lack of self knowledge and then criticized the behavior that is indicative of that self knowledge.

When he says, I should have never switched from scotch to Martinez. It's a given that it's an opinion. He doesn't say in my opinion, I kind of, sort of, it doesn't have to say it's an opinion. He can just say the thing itself and skip the line I gave up drinking. It was the worst afternoon. My life, same expression. You're not a star until they can spell your name and Karachi. He doesn't qualify that with, oh, I, I'm not saying anything in particular about Karachi. And I hope this isn't racist. He doesn't sit around hoping it isn't racist. He says what he thinks and lets the chips fall where they may acting is like sex. You either do it and don't talk about it or you talk about it and don't do it. That's why I'm always suspicious of people who talk too much about either.

This is a guy who's saying, look, I size up the world and filter pretty quickly. Here's my filter. He didn't ask you if you liked it. He didn't put a question mark on the end to see if you found it was acceptable or to ensure that you're on the same page. Paris is for lovers. Maybe that's why I only stayed 35 minutes. Very similar for the wedding line. Remember in Casa Blanca where I think the guy's name is [inaudible] or something like that. And he says, you despise me don't you and Rick, which is Bogart says, if I gave you any thought, I probably would. He does a buffer. He does a qualify. He doesn't worry that someone might be listening. He doesn't say, well, I'm not saying you're bad. The person who [inaudible]. And I think you get my point. So a few other lines from bogey, just because you can never get enough bogey.

And if you can, you haven't seen enough of his movies. It's such a lot of guns around town and so few brains. So he just called somebody more on without having to apologize. I stick my neck out for nobody. Great philosophy of life summed up in one sentence. If you can't sell me your philosophy of life up in a sentence, you haven't thought about it enough. If you can. I don't care what I don't care. If you say, hell is other people. From my point of view, you have a point of view and you're sticking with it. I admire that more than a guy that means Andrews for half an hour. And I still don't know what he said. Here's looking at you kid. When's the last time you heard a man stand up and give a toast that made any sense and was catchy memorable.

That kind of thing. I, it comes out of a pattern of speech that you have to develop before you stand up with a drink in your hand, if you're not that kind of guy your toast is going to be lame. So a couple of other observations let's get into Don Draper with a guy. I like Don Draper. The philosophy is sort of on steroids. He says how he sees the world without saying that you have to see the world the same way, but it's clear when you listen to Draper mad men. If you have a watch mad men that he doesn't care. If you agree, if you see the world differently, he still thinks he's right. I've heard that before. You know, what's offensive about the way you talk is that you think you're right. Well, if I thought I was wrong, I would change my mind.

If I thought I wasn't right. I wouldn't say it in the first place. If I walk around and it'd be Willard fog where everything I think is hypothetical. I don't know anything for sure. I live in a world of neolistic uncertainty and moral relativism and all I can say as well, I don't really know, but I kind of a hundred. I'm not a hundred percent sure, but I kind of