In this episode, Patricia explores the surprising science, psychology, and emotional wisdom behind tears. Why we cry and why it matters. From childhood beliefs about “crying alone,” to the therapeutic power of being seen, to the extraordinary microscopic landscapes of Rose-Lynn Fisher’s Topography of Tears, this conversation reveals why tears are far more than a sign of sadness, they’re a biological release, an emotional reset, and a universal human connector.

Introduction

We often rush to stop our own tears, and the tears of others. Yet emotional tears are uniquely human and play a crucial role in healing, connection, and self-understanding. Today’s episode explores the biology of crying, why we’re uncomfortable with emotions, how coaching spaces can invite healthy release, and the unexpected beauty contained within a single tear drop.

Key Takeaways

• Emotional tears are biologically healing, releasing stress hormones and boosting oxytocin and endorphins.


• We often shut down tears due to discomfort, not compassion, yet supportive presence can make crying therapeutic.


• Tears can appear in coaching spaces when clients finally feel safe, seen, and heard.


• Microscopic tear patterns are unique, revealing emotional “landscapes” as shown in Rose-Lynn Fisher’s Topography of Tears.


• Crying is universal but deeply personal, influenced by culture, context, and human connection.


• Not all crying is cathartic, its healing depends on how others respond.


• Tears mark emotional turning points, allowing acceptance, release, and renewal.


• There is nothing to fear about tears, they connect us to ourselves and to one another.

Notable Quotes

• “We have nothing to fear from tears.”


• “Comforted tears heal, ignored tears may deepen pain.”


• “Tears are landscapes of emotion, tiny maps of the human soul.”


• “We cannot control the ocean, but we can learn to surf.”


• “Tears mark turning points, moments of acceptance, release, and renewal.”


• “If you need to cry, cry unapologetically.”


• “A safe space can turn tears into empowerment.”

Recommended Books

1. The Topography of Tears – Rose-Lynn Fisher

A stunning visual exploration of human emotion through microscopic tear photography.

1. The Crying Book – Heather Christle

A poetic, literary, and deeply moving examination of why humans cry.

1. Why Humans Cry – Ad Vingerhoets

A scientific look at crying, catharsis, and emotional expression.

In Praise of Therapeutic Crying – Jeffrey Von Glahn (article)

A compassionate exploration of crying as a healing tool

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