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Have you noticed how quickly conversations about Black baby girls turn to their hair texture and skin tone? This episode dives into the uncomfortable reality of how our community scrutinizes Black girls from the moment they're born, sometimes even before. When Cam Newton's child's mother, Jasmine Brown, spoke out about the constant questioning of her daughter's hair and complexion, she hit a nerve that resonates with countless Black mothers. "Why are y'all so freaking critical of little black girls?" she asked, calling out a practice so normalized we barely recognize it anymore.

The truth is, this obsession with Black girls' aesthetic features isn't just annoying, it's rooted in generations of colorism and texturism dating back to slavery. We've internalized these beauty hierarchies so deeply that we perpetuate them with our seemingly innocent questions: "Does she have hair","What's her complexion", "Is her texture more like yours or his?"

What's most concerning is how these questions prioritize appearance over personality, health, or development. We're subtly teaching our daughters that their worth depends on their curl pattern and skin tone before they can even understand words. And when someone like J Brown calls it out, they're often gaslit or accused of exaggerating. 

As both a hair professional and a mother, I've seen both sides of this dynamic. I've caught myself comforting moms worried about their baby's hair growth and wondered about my own daughter's features during pregnancy. This episode isn't about shame but awareness. Our daughters deserve to be celebrated for who they are, not what grows from their scalps.

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