🔥 Lies.

• We hate 'em
• Sometimes We love 'em.
• We get lied to all the time.
• And…We ALLLLL tell them.

🔥 Recent research has found that other than a small percentage of outliers we humans don't lie as much as you'd think. That's great, however when we DO lie it can affect our mental, emotional & physical selves.

🔥 I'm sharing the 7 different perspectives of lying that we all experience at some point or another. I'll share how to recognize them as well as the worst type of lie that we need to recognize asap and stop before it causes any more damage. 

Listen in to hear about:

• The 7 Perspectives of lying that we all experience at some point or another
• How to recognize the intentions and perceptions around them - both when being told lies, and when telling lies
• Exploring emotions when telling lies
• How our bodies respond to lying
• The worst type of lie, and why we need to catch it before it goes any further.
• And so much more!

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TRANSCRIPT:

86 - The 7 Different Perspectives of Lying & The Worst Lie We Need to Stop Before it Causes Any More Damage

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[00:00:56 ] Intro

[00:00:56 ] Trina: Have you ever gotten asked a question and [00:01:00 ] then think at first you got nothing. Only to realize that there's so much. That it all wants to come out all at the same time. Recently I was asked about a personal and or professional story that helped me stand where I am today.

So that's what I did. Last week. I shared the story of how I learned to become truly fully alive. Eyes wide nostrils, flaring, fully awake, expansive. And filled with a deep mental, physical, and emotional peace. that Informed my emotional and entrepreneurial journey. I was so thrilled to share it with you. So if you missed it, go back and check it out.

But don't go yet, folks.

[00:01:43 ] Episode Start

[00:01:43 ] Trina: Today, I am going to be talking about the seven different perspectives of lying that we all experience at some point or another. I'm going to talk about how we recognize them in ourselves. And the worst [00:02:00 ] type of lie that we need to recognize as soon as possible and stop it before it causes any more damage. My name is Trina and I am a transformational self-mastery coach and I help visionary entrepreneurs stop the overwork overwhelm over delivery exhaustion cycle. So that success. Can actually feel like success. And today I am talking about lies. We hate them. Sometimes we love them and we get lied to all the time and we all tell them.

So there are seven levels of perspective on lying. The first level lies tend to feel expected. Like you expect to feel lied to there's a sense of [00:03:00 ] powerless and defeat. Like of course. They lied to me all. I hear a lies, right? When you perceive somebody telling you lies, it feels like everybody lies to me.

The truth is hidden to me.. And when you, now, when I say the word you, I mean, you, me, everyone, when we're at this perspective, at this level of perspective, this is what tends to be there. All right. So when we tell lies, we tell lies from the space of, I don't know, Or I'm afraid for others to find out. And there's a lot of guilt and shame there.

All right. Not me. Who did this? Not me, not me. All right. So it's a source of conflict and self-defense and cowering. All right. We've all had this. And so that's when we're at the effect of it. [00:04:00 ] And we'll talk a little bit more later if we have time about how we can use this level as a power. All right. Instead of just a perspective.

All right. So the second level lies, elicit. anger, outrage. It's a source of conflict. So we're level one. We were avoiding conflict with level two. It's a place of conflict we're settling in. It's "I win, or no one wins.". I win. Forget about all y'all all right. So the perspective at level two, when they perceive someone is lying, whether it's true or not, it feels as if they just don't want me to know how to get ahead, they can do it. They just don't want. So that's if the person at level two is working with a team, you know, when they say, oh, I [00:05:00 ] can't do it. Yeah. They can do it. They just don't want to. All right. How dare they lie to me? So oftentimes the response when told lies is outrage and. Force conflict and the person tends to feel threatened.

All right. There's a sense of deep betrayal. I'm not mocking anything because this is what a person who is reacting from this perspective is feeling. And I CA I can hear someone out there. I'm not saying that you, I'm not saying that's me saying, not me. I'm never that way. We all have an aspect of this in ourselves someplace, even if it's very tiny.

All right. So when they tell lies, there's a sense of subterfuge to get ahead. Like I'm not going to tell them this so that I can get ahead. All right. [00:06:00 ] So the idea at level two is. You don't, I'm going to win heck with y'all.

And oh, level three, things are getting a little bit better. All right. But there's still a perspective of lying at level three, the lies at level three, this is a space of tolerating making do, making some progress, things are doing okay. But there's a lot of tolerating, less than ideal. And a lot of managing people and manipulating people. All right. And so at level three, lies tend to be used to manage a person or a situation. There there's no, or very little, if any Malignancy in there, there, it's just, they're lying just to manage, to get things, to go their way.

All right. And so our response when a person at this level is feeling that they're being lied to is a deep sense of disappointment and a loss of [00:07:00 ] trust. All right. When a person at this level is in this perspective, experiencing telling a lie it's as if they don't need to know they as the other person outside of the person at this level, don't need to know, but I got to tell him something, right. They don't need to know the truth, but I need to tell them something just to get them to participate or to leave me alone. Often little white lies.

And honestly, I think the little white lies that's prevalent almost every day. There was some research out there that spoke to the fact that in any conversation, a person tells two or three lies, little tiny, tiny lies, even. All right. Lies of omission tend to be a little more prevalent here.

What people don't know won't hurt them. [00:08:00 ] Right. And more silence instead of having to tell a lie silent. Starts here and just to hold the peace and the silence isn't to make anybody else feel better or to hurt anybody or to suffer, but it just holds the peace.

At the level four perspective of lies, there's a deep desire to shield someone from pain, from sadness, from shame, from disappointment. All right. So if somebody is telling a person a lie, who's at level four and the person at level four, at that perspective perceived it as a lie. There's a sense of concern. All right. There's a sense of concern.

What if the person who is lying to me? What if they're lie causes them more pain or sickness or hardship. All right. There's concern for the other person who may be [00:09:00 ] telling the lie than the person who is perceiving the lie. It's worry about the other person or about other people. There's upset and worry about how the lie would affect another person or group.

All right. If you notice at the perspective of level four, there's no personal concern about how it might affect them. It's more about how it might affect t