We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.

This was a profoundly revealing and expansive conversation with Serena Davidson - founder of The Free Range Sex Movement.

In this episode, Serena reveals exactly what it was like to be raised in a cult and to be subjected to chronic trauma and abuse until she made the decision to leave everything behind in her early 20s. We discuss the parallels of what was systemic in her world, taken to extremes, with what women are still experiencing as “normal” in our current society. And as Serena’s tells of her own journey towards a “sacred sexuality and wholeness”, we uncover exactly what that might mean, how it feels, and why it is so entwined with self-sovereignty, self-awareness, self-love and our capacity for increased pleasure.

This may be a triggering episode for some, as it covers sexual and emotional abuse, yet it is also deeply moving and heart-opening. There is so much nourishment in this conversation for all genders, all orientations, and all fully-consenting ages.

Check out the timestamps below for teasers!

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00:33 From being raised in a cult to embracing mystical spirituality

Trauma and inhibitive sexual abuse to intuitive sexuality

“It was such a high degree of shame and guilt that it crossed the line into abuse.”

02:55 Oppression of the feminine and being told sexuality was “bad”

“The natural flow of healthy development was cut off because of fear and control”

Healing and facing her spiritual fears

04:00 Serena’s spontaneous kundalini awakening

Sacred sexuality, embodying the present moment and energetic release

“If I’d had an ‘orgasm’ then we were both in trouble and needed to be reproved and reprimanded”

08:50 Being raised with fundamentally harmful beliefs around sexuality

“We weren’t taught to listen to our heart, we weren’t taught to listen to our body”

Separation from our own inner guidance and innate wisdom as a method of control

10:00 The recipe for “success” which broke her body

“I treated my body like a machine instead of an animal that needed tenderness and care and compassion”

Learning to get into her body and emotions

12:10 The honesty of our body’s deep, inner knowing

Losing her entire community of everyone she’d known

“Huge losses, huge self-sacrifice just to live a life of self-sovereignty”

18:25 Self-sovereignty as independence vs inter-dependence

Generational suppression

Why ex- Jehova’s Witnesses loved The Matrix

22:05 20 years on - where is she now?

Disability, chronic illness and processing decades of pain

“I’m coming into a new fullness of my whole self”

25:20 Why “intuitive sexuality”?

What are the right questions to be asking about sex?

“What does it require of me to feel my best in an experience?”

27:05 Understanding our own sexuality: identity, orientation and beyond

Spectrums of sexuality and embodying true awareness

31:00 Serena’s motivation every day

Learning to embrace her capacity for joy to arise

The place of intentional, ceremonial grief work

32:35 Widening our emotional bandwidth: from the depths to ecstasy

“Being able to attain ecstasy, being able to have that emotional range to be able to grasp the ecstatic”

The real truth of “self-love” and “embodiment”

34:05 How does self-love FEEL?

“The important thing to identify is, ‘what is self-love for ME?’”

Sexuality as a microcosm

35:35 One thing you can do today to radically improve your self-love

Do this every day for a week, a month, or 90 days

“It’s money in the bank emotionally”

41:15 The emotional labour we take on as women

“I don’t need to smile just for you to feel pleasant right now”

How this affects our sex lives

43:00 The problem with performance-based sex

Self-conscious considerations take us out of the moment

What is the spiritual experience of our sexuality?

44:30 What it feels like to have a spiritual experience during sex

Moving beyond the “mystical” idea of spirituality

“It’s just this vivaciousness and vibrancy of life flowing through you”

48:35 What about porn?

Heart-space connection, awareness of feelings and exploring our own self-pleasure

Fast food vs home-made christmas dinner!

51:35 “How much pleasure can you stand?”

Tuning into your own sensuality in all areas of life

Slowing down, enjoying the journey

53:20 How does Serena come back to her own sensuality?

“When I pause and check in with my body and my heart, I get new information”

Breath, tuning into the body and ecstatic dance

58:36 “Am I being too ‘me’?”

Traumatic childhoods and how we struggle to own our identities

How long does it take to heal?

60:00 “Our sexuality is our whole health”

Genitals, fetishism, censorship, shame culture and beyond

Integrating our sexuality as part of our wholeness

You can connect with Serena here:

Freerangesex.org

https://www.facebook.com/FreeRangeSex/

https://www.instagram.com/freerangesex/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvg0PdvCXj7Dj7S1tMJxDQA

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