What happens when a survivor becomes the leader of a movement? In this raw and deeply human episode, Tom sits down with Toni McKinley—Executive Director of the Magdalen House in Austin, Texas, and a survivor of sex trafficking herself—for one of the most profound conversations this show has ever hosted.

Toni doesn't just talk about trauma—she’s lived it, studied it, and transformed it into powerful leadership. Together, Tom and Toni unpack what trauma actually does to the brain, how memory is affected by abuse, and why traditional approaches to healing often fall short. But this conversation isn’t about theory—it’s about what it takes to rebuild your life from the ground up and why safe, supportive housing is absolutely essential for recovery.

And for the men listening—this one is especially for you. Toni speaks directly to the heart of what it means to be a man in today’s world. She challenges the cultural narratives that silence men emotionally and shares actionable tools for self-reflection, emotional growth, and healing generational wounds. They explore how men can show up—truly show up—for their families, their partners, and themselves.

This episode will shift your perspective on trauma, leadership, and the real meaning of resilience. If you’ve ever wondered how to break cycles of pain and step into a role of healing and leadership, this is your blueprint.

Warning: This conversation might just change the way you see yourself.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Magdalen House and Its Mission

03:00 Understanding the Need for Supportive Housing

05:57 The Impact of Trauma on Survivors

09:07 Toni's Personal Journey and Healing Process

11:55 The Science of Trauma and Its Effects

14:49 Navigating Trauma Responses

18:01 Resilience and Recovery from Trauma

21:06 The Importance of Understanding Trauma

24:06 Toni's Story and the Power of Narrative

30:54 Understanding Trauma and Memory

32:31 The Importance of Relationships in Healing

34:54 Community and Connection: Healing Together

35:42 Navigating Relationships Post-Trauma

40:14 The Role of Men in Healing and Relationships

45:01 Men and Trauma: Breaking the Cycle

51:27 Agency in Healing: Taking Responsibility

54:07 Advice for Men: Healing Starts at Home

Let's Connect:

www.epikproject.org

https://www.magdaleneaustin.org

https://www.tonimckinley.com/

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@MagdaleneATX

@Toni_Adventures1

Facebook:

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LinkedIn:

Toni McKinley on LinkedIn

Magdalene House of Austin on LinkedIn