What does the fear of “doing it wrong” cost us? And why is the instinct to correct—often harshly—so common in Jewish spaces? In this episode, Rabbi Benay Lappe and Dan Libenson unpack how gatekeeping, judgment, and the pressure to "get it right" shape our communal life. Through personal stories and the wisdom of the tradition, they reveal what’s truly at stake when fear and control take precedence over empathy and belonging.

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