In this episode of Love Isn't Enough, Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose take a deep dive into two of the biggest relationship killers: defensiveness and criticism. These behaviors, identified by Dr. John Gottman as part of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse," are major predictors of relationship dissatisfaction and conflict. But the good news? With awareness and intentionality, couples can break these toxic patterns and create healthier, more connected communication.

 

We explore:

• What the Four Horsemen are and why they matter in relationships.

• How criticism differs from constructive feedback—and why it often leads to defensiveness.

• The underlying fears and wounds that drive defensiveness (and how to shift out of it).

• Practical tools to replace criticism with compassionate communication.

• How to create emotional safety so both partners feel heard and valued.

 

If you and your partner ever find yourselves stuck in a cycle of blame, frustration, or misunderstanding, this episode is packed with insights to help you break free and build a stronger, more resilient relationship.

 

Connect with Joree & John:

• Website: www.loveisntenough.net

• Instagram: @loveisntenough33

• Subscribe to their podcast: Love Isn't Enough

• Join our relationship Master Class series: https://loveisntenough.net/masterclass/

 

Connect with Dr. John Schinnerer:

• Website: www.guidetoself.com

• Instagram: @theevolvedcaveman

• Subscribe to his podcast: The Evolved Caveman

 

Connect with Joree Rose:

• Website: www.joreerose.com

• Instagram: @joreerose

• Subscribe to her podcast: Journey Forward with Joree Rose

• Join the Podcast Membership: https://joreerose.com/journeyforwardpodcast/