In this episode, Talia Bombola and Dave Glaser discuss the challenges of creating content in a healthy relationship and the importance of setting boundaries and privacy. They also explore the impact of social media on relationships and the evolution of dating apps. The conversation delves into the talking stage and the dangers of getting stuck in that phase. They emphasize the need for authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability in relationships, as well as the importance of fine-tuning the picker and raising relationship standards. In this conversation, Talia Bombola and Dave Glaser discuss various aspects of relationships and offer valuable insights. They explore recognizing patterns, setting boundaries, and unprogramming relationship programming. They emphasize the importance of seeking objective advice and avoiding biased opinions from family and friends. They also discuss the influence of curated content on social media and the need to trust one's gut instincts. The conversation delves into the fallacy of 'if they won't, someone else will' and the importance of effective communication. They highlight the benefits of long-term healthy relationships and the power of weekly check-ins. Finally, they discuss the nuances of healthy relationships and the importance of taking space and communicating needs.

Takeaways
- Creating content in a healthy relationship can be challenging, as it may require setting boundaries and respecting privacy.
- The evolution of dating apps and social media has changed the dynamics of dating and relationships.
- It is important to differentiate between the talking stage and dating, and to avoid getting stuck in the talking phase.
- Authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability are crucial in building healthy relationships.
- It is essential to fine-tune the picker and raise relationship standards to attract emotionally available partners. Recognize patterns in your relationships and set boundaries to create healthier dynamics.
- Seek objective advice from counselors or trusted individuals rather than relying solely on biased opinions from family and friends.
- Be mindful of the influence of curated content on social media and actively search for diverse perspectives.
- Trust your gut instincts and cultivate your inner voice to make decisions that align with your values and needs.
- Regularly communicate with your partner through check-ins to deepen intimacy and address any concerns or needs.

Connect with Talia:

taliabombola.com

therapywithtalia.com

IG: @taliabombola

Connect with Dave:

IG: @coachdaveglaser
Tiktok: @dave.glaser
Dave's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-challenger-podcast/id1397178628

00:00 Introduction and New Relationship Story
01:01 Challenges of Creating Content in a Healthy Relationship
03:07 Setting Boundaries and Privacy in a Relationship
05:53 Using Dating Advice in Real Life
07:58 The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication
09:05 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships
10:05 Navigating Communication in Relationships
11:07 The Role of Voice Memos in Communication
12:19 The Evolution of Dating Apps and Social Media
13:14 The Talking Stage and Dating
15:12 The Dangers of Getting Stuck in the Talking Phase
17:21 The Paradox of Choice and Multi-Dating
18:24 Defining Relationships and Emotional Availability
20:13 The Challenges of Being Friends with an Ex
22:20 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships
23:54 The Impact of Social Media on Relational Content
25:18 The Importance of Authenticity and Vulnerability
28:00 Taking Accountability in Relationships
29:16 Reframing Relationship Patterns
31:33 Fine-Tuning the Picker and Raising Relationship Standards
32:51 The Power of Light Bulb Moments
33:36 Differentiating Red Flags and Deal Breakers
33:46 Recognizing Patterns and Setting Boundaries
34:40 Unprogramming Relationship Programming
35:36 The Biased Advice of Family and Friends
36:29 Curated Content and Social Media Influence
37:26 Trusting Your Gut and Seeking Counsel
38:02 The Fallacy of 'If They Won't, Someone Else Will'
39:00 Unraveling Relationship Programming
40:09 The Importance of Effective Communication
41:02 The Danger of Unrealistic Expectations
42:29 The Benefits of Long-Term Healthy Relationships
43:42 The Power of Weekly Check-Ins
46:31 The Nuances of Healthy Relationships
49:03 Taking Space and Communicating Needs
52:02 Defeating Past Patterns and Trusting Your Inner Guide