After Cathy attended the 2025 National Association for College Admission Counseling (NACAC) conference—where a session titled "The Plight of the Standard Strong Student" drew such an overwhelming crowd that police had to intervene for safety reasons—it became clear just how urgent this topic has become. The so-called "standard strong student" is academically exceptional: straight As, rigorous coursework, impressive test scores, and meaningful extracurricular involvement. Yet, despite being "perfectly qualified," many of these students are still turned away from institutions with single-digit acceptance rates. In today’s episode, Cathy and Meredith unpack what these students often lack, why identifying institutional priorities is nearly impossible, and how families can regain a sense of control in the admissions process. Tune in to hear all this and more, including why authenticity and alignment are the real keys to success in selective college admissions.

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:01:00 ] Meredith and Cathy welcome listeners to today’s episode.


• [0:02:20 ] Today’s topic of conversation: the plight of the standard strong student.


• [0:04:00 ] We define what a standard strong student is.


• [0:05:00 ] What they lack: institutional priorities.


• [0:05:30 ] The difference between admission and enrollment management.


• [0:09:00 ] Why institutional priorities are impossible to see.


• [0:09:45 ] How we can give control back to students and families.


• [0:13:45 ] They replicate school lists as an example of how to go about finding the right school.


• [0:17:30 ] The point: are students diving deep enough into researching colleges that align with their goals and values?


• [0:21:00 ] Widen the lens: not having the exact same college list and the exact same majors.


• [0:24:00 ] Encouraging critical self-reflection early.


• [0:25:40 ] Tips for taking back control for our standard strong students.


• [0:26:36 ] The “village” approach and the standard strong student.


• [0:28:04 ] Making space for authenticity to grow in our children.


• [0:29:30 ] An example of why we need to cultivate other interests.


• [0:34:40 ] Key takeaways from today’s episode.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

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