There’s a freedom that comes in your 40s that no one warns you about - because it doesn’t come from achievement or success. It comes from shedding.

In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about what it really means to stop giving a f*ck - not in the cynical sense, but in the self-loving one.It’s about choosing your energy wisely, letting go of people and stories that no longer fit, and returning to who you were before the world told you to shrink.

This is the power of midlife clarity. It’s not burnout - it’s rebirth.

In this episode:

• What “not giving a f*ck” really means (hint: it’s not apathy)


• How turning 40 rewires your priorities


• Knowing what’s yours to own - and what’s not


• The end of proving yourself and chasing validation


• Returning to your core self


• The quiet strength of keeping promises to yourself

Mentioned in this episode:

Vanessa’s Inter Compass Academy - coaching through the lens of depth psychology.

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Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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