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The Problem With Being Nice

The Problem With Being Nice

Update: 2025-11-03
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Are you constantly saying "yes" when you want to say "no"? Do you find yourself overwhelmed, overlooked, and underappreciated, despite being the "nice one"? In this episode, we dig into the real problem with being too nice and what to do instead. You'll uncover how people-pleasing sabotages your leadership potential and why kindness without boundaries drains your energy, derails your goals, and keeps you stuck in the background.

Using the classic 80s film Revenge of the Nerds as a surprisingly perfect illustration, Dr. Jerry Cunningham shares psychological research, leadership strategies, and real-life insights to help you stop being a doormat and start leading with confidence.

If you're ready to stop being liked and start being respected—press play.

 

Want to go deeper? Check out these resources:

  1. Deci & Ryan (2000) – Self-Determination Theory: The Psychology of Motivation

  2. Newman, Susan (2011) – The Book of No

  3. Cloud, Henry (2008) – Integrity: The Courage to Meet the Demands of Reality

  4. Harvard Business Review (2023) – "Why Too Much Agreeableness Can Hold You Back"

  5. Grant, Adam (2013) – Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success

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The Problem With Being Nice

The Problem With Being Nice

Dr. Jerry Cunningham