The Radical Act of Warmth in an Avoidant-Attachment Culture
Description
My guest today is neuroscience educator, Sarah Peyton, who is an author, an international constellations facilitator, Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, and someone who has spent many years integrating constellations, brain science and the use of resonant language to heal trauma.
In this episode we dive into:
- Flight and fight and a less known distress response ‘alarmed aloneness’ – or separation distress.
- We linked loneliness as a killer and the stressor of aloneness – the modern culture of ‘grow up’, ‘don’t cry’, ‘you can do it on our own’ messages.
- Re-affirming that our biology says we are not supposed to be alone, and healthy relationships are essential. As practitioners or parents showing our delight in our children, signals that they matter and are cared for!
- It is in fact a radical act to find warmth for us and others, not evaluating or measuring others, rather appreciating, and connecting with others.
- What does attachment mean for our health? The astounding statistics surrounding avoidant attachment and how stress increases our sense of aloneness and internal negative dialogue and self-worth.
- We need to be securely attached! Secure attachment is when we bring the people we love inside us – and are able to have warmth for ourselves.
- As we talked about the grief of loss of the health of the planet, Sarah, reminds us that healing our trauma, will provide joy, play, and love, which we need to have to stay present to what is happening, and to have the creative energy to take action together.
- The safer we feel the more parts are able contribute – activism arises from creative response – link to August response in the UK with Prime Minister that Sarah referred to: https://www.theguardian.com/environment/video/2023/aug/03/greenpeace-activists-black-fabric-rishi-sunak-mansion-oil-protest-video
- We create safety by genuinely liking our students, we are inviting each nervous system and brain.
Show Notes:
https://theoutdoorteacher.com/podcasts/episode-29-sarah-peyton-podcast/
Music by Geoff Robb: www.geoffrobb.com
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