Some days feel strangely effortless.

You wake up, the weather is on your side, your coffee tastes like a café masterpiece, your coworkers are sunshine, your kid glides through the night routine without a single battle, and your partner even prepares your favorite dinner — a true 100/10 day.

And then there are the other days — the days when every light turns red, every person seems crabby, and everything feels just a little too heavy.

We all have both kinds of days.

Many of them.

For the rest of our lives. 

So I want to offer you something important:

Whatever kind of day you’re having today… you are not alone.

There is nothing “wrong” with you for feeling overwhelmed, tender, or exhausted. In fact, those are often the exact moments when a quiet, painful question shows up in the back of your mind — the one I talk about in this week’s episode.

It's The Unanswerable Question, that quiet question that appears when you’re hurt, disappointed, or let down. 

It’s the question that pokes at an old wound — the one you’ve asked a hundred times, even though no amount of evidence ever seems to answer it.

Timestamps:

• 00:44 — You are not alone: grounding yourself on hard days
•  01:44 — What is the “Unanswerable Question”?
•  03:39 — When this question gets triggered
•  05:14 — How old wounds shape present-day reactions
•  06:42 — Common unanswerable questions we all carry
•  08:42 — Our go-to patterns when the question shows up
•  09:43 — Why no one else can answer this question for you
•  11:07 — How to begin answering it from within

Try one change this week: 

Notice what question shows up in your mind when you feel hurt or forgotten.

Just watching it — without believing it — creates the space you need to respond differently.

This episode is my way of sitting beside you on those hard days, naming that question out loud, and helping you hold it with a little more understanding and compassion. And if this episode brings you one breath of relief or one moment of clarity, it has done its job.

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