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Toxic Complaining: How people-pleasing shows up at work

Toxic Complaining: How people-pleasing shows up at work

Update: 2025-07-07
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Welcome back to Dial Emma! Each week, I'll be answering your dilemmas with honesty, empathy, and a few therapeutic truth bombs to help you make sense of life's stickiest moments. If you've ever wished you had a therapist in your back pocket, Dial Emma is here to help.

This week, we explore a dilemma that will feel all too familiar to recovering people-pleasers: What happens when your efforts to support a struggling colleague backfire? Is it toxic complaining?!

Our listener shares the challenge of working with a teammate who constantly complains, leaving them feeling drained, excluded, and unsure if they’re somehow the problem. I unpack what's really going on beneath the surface, looking at people-pleasing patterns, emotional projection, and the complex dynamics that can make even the most positive workplaces feel heavy.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt responsible for someone else’s emotional state—or who wonders if being “too helpful” might be doing more harm than good.

If you have a dilemma for Emma, please fill out this form. 

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Dial Emma is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Lauren Brook.

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Toxic Complaining: How people-pleasing shows up at work

Toxic Complaining: How people-pleasing shows up at work