Julian talks with Sureya, a holsitic sex and relationship coach

Learn more about Sureya at www.sureyaleonara.com

Instagram: @sureya_leonara

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Partial List of Topics (approximate times):

• 5:44 Conversation with Sureya begins


• Sureya introduces herself as a holistic sex and relationship coach and shares what she means by holistic and how sex and relationships connect with so many areas of life


• How a non-dual perspective can help make sense of the many different healing and meditative and spiritual modalities


• How becoming debilitatingly sick with Lyme disease and a Cohn infection and other health problems eventually lead to a transformation for Sureya to become more empowered and to stop being in a victim mentality


• Getting out of victim mentality


• How to fully feel and face the challenges of life, without bypassing and also without staying in a victim mentality


• The illusion of 'free will' and how that does not contradict taking responsibility


• How Sureya was in a very toxic relationship that felt parasitic and how she found the strength to leave that


• 20:20 - a wise older friend saying to her 'You are responsible for everything that is happening in your life right now"


• 22:45 - how sometimes ending a relationship is the best thing for all involved


• 24:25 - role of addictions can play in relationships, for both the one in the caretaker role and the one who seems in need of saving


• 28:33 - Sureya's new course on the Art of Transmutation


• 29:54 Finding your sovereign truth


• 31:54 The Trauma and Fear of being Ostracized and kicked out of a group


• 33:25 - How Sureya works with almost all her clients on people pleasing and becoming authentic


• 34:33 - How Sureya was raised to be polite and people pleasing and how she used to be so shy


• 37:15 Importance of connecting as humans even when you believe different thigs or have different politics and view points


• 38:00 Creating good boundaries - and how there is an energetic component to it


• 40:00 - Story from the life of the historical Buddha of how he chose not to accept the 'gift' of anger after a man spat on his face.


• 44:00 - how to channel anger in a good way


• 45:00 Have people tried to "cancel" Sureya ?

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