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Are you tired of feeling like you have to be “good” to be loved? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with self-worth & confidence coach Rosie Milsom to explore the good girl archetype — why so many women fall into it, the hidden costs of staying there, and how to reclaim your voice, worth, and true self.

From childhood conditioning to chronic people-pleasing, we dive deep into how these patterns form, why they’re so hard to break, and the science behind nervous system regulation for lasting change. You’ll leave this episode with the tools, insights, and inspiration to step out of performance mode and start living fully as YOU.

🎯 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The 3 masks of the good girl: Pleaser, Prover, Performer

• Why people-pleasing is a survival strategy, not a flaw

• The hidden physical and emotional costs (including allostatic load)

• How to differentiate self-worth from confidence

• Practical steps to start breaking free — without guilt

• How neuroscience and polyvagal theory support authentic living

  
  

⏱️ CHAPTERS:
00:00 – Welcome & Introduction
01:17 – Rosie’s Journey: From Nonprofit Work to Coaching
05:05 – What Is the “Good Girl” Archetype?
08:45 – How Society Rewards & Shapes the Good Girl
14:34 – The Hidden Costs of Self-Silencing
20:28 – The Science: Allostatic Load & Chronic Stress
27:19 – The 3 Masks of the Good Girl
33:42 – Breaking the Pattern: Awareness & Self-Discovery
39:12 – Self-Worth vs. Confidence
43:01 – The Nervous System’s Role in Authentic Living
49:12 – Rosie’s Transformative Core Belief
54:32 – Final Message: You Don’t Have to Earn Your Worth
55:32 – How to Connect with Rosie
56:26 – Closing & Next Steps

📌 CONNECT WITH ROSIE MILSOM
Instagram: @rosie_milsom_coaching
Free Quiz – Find Your Hidden Confidence Block: https://rosiemilsom.scoreapp.com

📌 CONNECT WITH SAMMY STOLTZ
Instagram: @shine.in.n.out
Website: Shine In & Out
Podcast: Shine In & Out on all major platforms

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