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Want to find a wife? Be a better man.

Want to find a wife? Be a better man.

Update: 2025-09-05
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American women have grown more independent economically in recent decades, giving them greater choice in whom to date or marry — and the choice to opt out altogether. But where does women's rising stock leave men, and how is it connected with today’s so-called masculinity crisis? Post columnist Shadi Hamid talks with Richard Reeves, founder of the American Institute for Boys and Men, about why to pay on the first date, whether we’re heading toward a world of surplus men and how to be a man women want to marry.


Here’s the study Richard mentions from the American Institute for Boys and Men: Will college educated women find someone to marry?


Additional reading by our columnists:

Shadi Hamid: Men are struggling to find love. Here’s why.

Rahm Emanuel: What’s really depressing America’s young men

Julien Berman: No, Gen-Z men aren’t special


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Want to find a wife? Be a better man.

Want to find a wife? Be a better man.

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