For a sexual woman, or a woman who enjoys regular sex, nothing feels more devastating than being deprived of intimacy, closeness, and the feeling of being desired. In long-term relationships, this scenario is more common than many realize and can lead to her disconnecting, shutting down and even feeling deeply resentmentful. In this episode, we explore what you can do if you've been neglecting your partner ins this department.

The Pain of Feeling Undesired

When a woman feels rejected sexually, it’s not just about the lack of physical intimacy—it’s about the emotional toll it takes on her feeling unwanted. She may begin to question her worth, her attractiveness, and even the relationship itself. A hug and a peck hello won't be enough to salvage it.  Meaningful actions and effort are needed to make her feel truly wanted but more so in the sensual and sexual sense.

The Initiation Paradox

Many men struggle to initiate intimacy, while many women hesitate to take the lead for fear of being judged or feeling rejected themselves. This “initiation paradox” creates a frustrating stalemate that slowly erodes sexual connection. A woman’s sexual expression often mirrors what her partner inspires in her; if she feels ignored or undesired, her sensuality can wither. To move things forward, it’s essential to break this cycle by understanding her emotional needs and taking intentional steps to get that chemistry back.

Questions to Ask Yourself

If intimacy has stalled in your relationship, it’s time for some tough self-reflection. Effort is sometimes too strong of word, but are you putting in the effort or energy to make her feel desired? Are you addressing your own low libido or other barriers to connection? If you’re in a sexless or low-sex relationship, ask yourself whether this is a dealbreaker—or if you’re willing to put in the work to change the dynamic. Recognize that women still crave intimacy and fantasize about passion, even if the spark has dimmed in their own relationship.

This emotionally charged episode goes deep into the challenges of intimacy deprivation and offers actionable advice for reigniting connection and restoring balance.

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CHAPTERS

0:00 Introduction

5:12 Disperate sex drives and libidos

8:35 Why can't women just initiate themselves?

9:35 Female Nature

12:27 No man wants a starfish. No woman wants someone who doesn't desire her

13:14 The initiation paradox

14:55 Words vs Actions

16:26 Men find it hard to initiate when

19:06 For things to work, women need to offer these secret ingredients

23:42 Mens false promises?

24:40 This is how it looks when a woman feels undesired

25:52 A hug and kiss is not the bare minimum

26:50 Damage control due to lack of promises

30:32 For men with low sex drives / libidos

38:00 If you can't imagine the previous recommendations, ask yourself these hard questions

44:30 Is lack of sex a deal breaker for you or your partner?

47:45 Understanding mens issue with too much consent

51:41 Understanding why your wife doesn't initiate now even though she used to

53:00 A woman is only as sexual as you will allow or inspire her to be

54:10 Even in a sexless marriage, women still fantasize and want sex and intimacy

57:20 How to get help with this right now

58:44 Outro